1At that time the kingdom of heaven will be like ten virgins who took their lamps and went out to meet the bridegroom. 2 Five of them were foolish, and five were wise. 3The foolish ones took their lamps but did not take along any extra oil. 4But the wise ones took oil in flasks along with their lamps.
This matter of the extra oil is exceedingly important. Here we see a reserve supply of oil that went along with the wise virgins as a matter of course. This extra resource was quite separate from the oil that was in their lamps. The oil the wise carried in their lamps was no greater in supply than the oil in the lamps of the foolish. All ten of them saw their lamps beginning to burn out as the midnight hour approached. So this extra oil supply was not a superabundance overflowing from within the lamps of the wise. The wise virgins certainly had extra oil with them. But that extra was not in their lamps. The extra oil came from another companion vessel that they carried with them.
This is a very important point. In the symbolism we see that the extra oil was not to be found within the spirit being of the wise virgins. Their glory and their esteem was not in themselves. The extra oil of Light and gladness came from an external source. It was a supply and a Providence that was outside and beyond their own strength. It was a personal resource to be sure. And it was a resource they obviously had access to. But this extra energy supply was separate from the oil they had within the lamp of their own spirit. This was the critical difference between those who were wise and those who were foolish. What is God trying to tell us here?
The fact that the virgins came to a time when their lamps were sputtering and burning low is not the main issue at all. This happened to all ten of the virgins, including the five wise virgins. Burn out happens to all of us from time to time as we come to low points and times of crisis in our lives. There is nothing wrong with this at all. It is a common human experience. We cannot pump up our ego or our “self esteem” and expect to avoid this. But our response to the high calling in God amid the challenges of life is what seems to be the issue.
So let us ask ourselves this question. Do we fear God? Do we seek His face when our world enters into a crisis? Have we come to know God more intimately in our dark passages through life? Have we taken time to address the spiritual issues as we walk with God through this life?
A lot of ladies complain that guys walk away from them simply because they refused to give them sex, some are even tempted to give away their virginity just to keep the guys.
Virginity may not be the real reason the guys go away. Yes, no doubt, there are several guys who want sex, and if they don’t get it they walk away. The problem may not be with the virginity or the sex. The story of the Ten virgins in the Bible reveals that both the wise and foolish were both virgins, the other five were not refused from seeing the bridegroom because they were virgins or because they lost their virginity, but because they were foolish; they were called foolish because they had no EXTRA OIL(spiritual maturity and stability).
Most ladies don’t have any EXTRA OIL to sustain any relationship. While many brag about their virginity, that is all they have to offer, they forget that virginity ends the night after the wedding, but EXTRA OIL is what will keep marriage going.
If a man ask a lady for sex she says NO, the man can walk away if what he really wanted was sex and also if that is all he thinks the lady can offer him. A man may not come to a lady for sex, along the line he may be tempted to ask for sex, if the lady turns him down, the man may still stay in the relationship if he sees other things that are valuable to him, but if he doesn’t, he may walk away.
Dear ladies, before you think guys are walking away because you are a virgin, look inwardly.
Some ladies who brag about virginity have very bad Character, very hot tempered, very arrogant, proud, uncultured and aggressive. Why would a guy stay with such a lady? To some ladies the best thing they have is their hips, nice backside, nice breast and nice lips, so when a guy comes because of all the physical shapes and wants sex, if he is turned down, he walks away because there is nothing else interesting about the lady.
Most men now are even scared of marrying such virgins. Their fears prompt them to want to test before they discuss marriage because many ladies who got married as virgins have caused their husbands to be looking elsewhere because of the bad characters of the women they got married to.
However men, you don’t need to test to be sure she will be good, you can know a lady who will be good at home by her decent conversation, by the level of knowledge acquired, by her quest/zest passion for knowledge and by God’s leading through prayer. Do not break your virginity because a guy/girl wants to walk away, unless you don’t have anything else to offer in the relationship. It is not all about virginity, work to build up virtue. Virginity is good, but to your virginity, add knowledge, add EXTRA OIL…. “And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith,virtue;and to virtue,knowledge;and to knowledge,temperance;and to temperance,patience;and to patience,godliness,and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, charity.” 2Pet. 1:5-7.Virginity or no virginity…,do you have any Extra oil to sustain a relationship?
The oil is a symbol of
God’s grace, A close walk with God, Obedience to God and His Word, Intimacy with Him, Knowledge of God, The presence and guidance of the Holy Spirit.
In conclusion, Let us draw near to our God in devotion to Him. Let us trim our lamps for the coming night. And let us seek the oil, and the fullness of His Holy Spirit now. Ponder on this my readers!!!I would be glad to read your comments.