21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
Words have life. As parents we should always watch the words we use or say to our children.That is why motivational speakers and self-help books encourage positive self-talk and speaking what you want into your life. With this understanding in mind, I try to be very purposeful in my language and my conversations with and around my son and daughter.
One of the most important things I have learned having 2 of my own children is that they absorb much more than one might think. They hear, process, and internalize conversations around them, especially when the topic relates to them. They are often aware and listening even when adults think that they are unaware, playing or distracted. It is important to recognize the impact of statements made in front of kids.
There are several things we need to be aware of when talking to children. Here are a few to start with, but there are many more.All children need the good influence of adults. They learn by example.
Negative Words and Phrases that Will Demoralize Your Child
1.“I wish you were more like your brother/Sister”– God doesn’t create any two of us exactly the same so don’t try to make your child fit the mold of your other child. To wish that your kids were the same is taking their individuality away and could lead them to an identity crisis. They are meant to be who they are, not their brother/sibling. They may be completely different, and if so- so be it. They were created in the image of God– not their sibling. The beautiful thing about God is, He has different facets, and creates us all different- yet all to look like Him.