Most Christians agree that the first marriage as ordained by God between Adam and Eve is an example to be followed by all who claim to be followers of Christ.
In Genesis 2:18, 21-24 the Bible says; “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him’…and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh.Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.’ For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (NIV)
Based on the above scripture, a Christian marriage has been seen as a practice instituted by the Creator for His children. Thus, it is only right that for every Christian marriage, they couples must follow the rules laid down in the holy manuscript by God.
If you are married, the goal is to stay married forever. No do overs. Don’t be so quick to bail every time you hit a rough patch in your marriage.
Here are Few things every Christian marriage should possess.
when we come down to the particular relationship of husbands to wives, and wives to husbands, Scripture gives us an important, additional emphasis. Husbands are told specifically to love their wives as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Wives are told specifically to respect their husbands as the church does Christ (Ephesians 5:33).
It is important that both of you set boundaries and stick to them.
Pray For One Another Every Day and Pray with one another as well. Nothing says “I Love You” better than praying for someone. Pray a covering of protection over each other before leaving your home. Your prayers should include asking the Lord to set guardian angels to war and protect your home and your relationship. You have to fight for your relationship … and the proper way to fight is with prayer. When you argue, pray about it! Never get so upset that you feel like you can’t pray with your spouse. In fact, those are the times when you need to be praying the most.
Don’t Hold Grudges. There will be disagreements. I know it’s easier said than done, but forgive each other quickly. The longer you allow an issue to fester, the more difficult it becomes to move beyond it. Work on your issues. Talk about how they make you feel and how they’ve affected you emotionally, physically, or spiritually. Once you have made a decision to forgive, make a decision to leave the issue in the past. Don’t wait for the perfect time to bring it up again.
Any relationship requires communication. Don’t be afraid to voice how you feel and don’t be offended when your mate voices how he feels. Just as long as it’s done respectfully and in love.
If you feel like your mate is slacking or just feel that the relationship is just not what it used to be, don’t be afraid to let them know. The sooner you address the issue, the more likely it can be resolved. Avoiding the issue, doesn’t fix the issue.
Keeping secrets, hiding feelings, and being untruthful are the number one reasons relationships fail. What’s done in the dark will always come to the light. Remember that.
Faith should be the root of every Christian relationship. When one’s faith is weak, one may need to lift the other. Encourage your mate to draw closer to God. A relationship should not distract you from God. If it interferes with your relationship with God, there are definitely some changes that need to be made.
Attend Church Together. Marriage is difficult enough without maintaining a commitment to serve God. There are too many distractions and influences that will hinder a relationship without God. Remember your wedding vows, “What God has joined together”. Being close to God allows a couple to seek wisdom and guidance in their relationship. It also provides a willingness to allow forgiveness to play an important part of your marriage.
Understand that God created us all differently. There are going to be things that you will not always agree on. That’s normal. A difference of opinion does not mean a couple is not compatible. It just means that we all have different opinions.
Maybe there will be times when you can’t go out on the town because your mate is tired. Be understanding. There will be other times. Maybe your mate is thinking about quitting their 9 to 5 in order to follow a dream God has placed in their heart. Be understanding. Compromising a little does not mean you are settling.
Next to God, My Wife is first and then our children. No one comes before her. She is my best friend.
There’s no greater feeling than being loved. Love truly conquers all. The Bible says “Husbands are to love their wives, even as Christ also loved the church”. It’s easy to love someone when things are peachy and rosy, but the real test of love is when things get a little shaky. Do you love them enough to stay and work it out or do you run for the exit?
Hebrews 13:4 – “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”
Ephesians 5:23,24,32 – “For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.”
New studies support the idea that gratitude is an integral part of healthy relationships. As marriages move past the honeymoon stage, couples go from appreciating and loving every little detail about each other to taking each other for granted. The key to sparking healthy relationships with gratitude is to take the initiative: “Instead of just waiting for the other person to make you feel good, you can jump start that cycle and take it into your own hands by focusing on what’s good in your relationship.
Gratitude is a skill that you cultivate—nurture it in yourself, and soon your will see positivity radiate back at you.